Embodied Relationship

Private coaching with
Odessa Avianna Perez, MA

Trauma-informed | Somatic | Attachment Repair |

Secure Functioning | Decolonizing Relationship

In this somatic coaching collaboration, I help you uncover and repair attachment wounds that are holding you back from healthy, secure and love-filled relationships. I bring my decades-long embodied wisdom and somatic, trauma-informed lens to help you find secure solutions to live a fully-expressed, sovereign and connected life, in and out of relationship.

If you’re longing for healthier and more rewarding relationships, and know your own growth can make a big difference in these realms, you’ll love this coaching program.

Does any of this sound familiar to you?

✔ “I often don’t know what I need or how to advocate for my needs in relationship”

✔ “I tend to get really distant or avoidant when I need to set boundaries with my partner”

✔ “I struggle to set any boundaries at all”

✔ "I have a hard time feeling connected to my partner"

✔ “I don’t know how (or I don’t feel safe) to be my authentic self in relationship”

✔ "I have a hard time communicating with my partner"

✔ "I spend all my time fighting or being in conflict with my partner"

✔ "I can't find a healthy and rewarding romantic relationship"

✔ "I keep attracting the wrong partner/ keep finding myself in toxic relationship dynamics"

✔ "I don't trust myself to know what or who is good for me"

If any of this is you, you’ve come to the right place.

So now, the question is:

How do you recruit your body’s wisdom to support happy and healthy relationships in your life?

Welcome to Embodied Relationship.

I’m Odessa, and I’ll be your guide on this journey.

I’m an Embodiment and Somatic Coach and it’s my passion to help people discover their most secure, connected and fully-expressed selves, in and out of relationship. 

I’m on a mission to help people experience healthier and more secure relationships.

I’ve been helping people find more ease and connection in relationships for over a decade. In addition to my Masters in Counseling Psychology with a concentration in Somatics from California Institute of Integral Studies, I’m trained in polyvagal theory, attachment theory, interpersonal neurobiology and nervous system regulation, and have a certificate in Embodied Social Justice. This expertise helps me offer focused support around your specific relationship challenges.

I’ve been a dancer all my life, and discovered somatics a decade ago. Throughout my own healing journey, including somatic, movement, embodiment and trauma work, I’ve been able to witness a more secure, communicative and grounded version of myself emerge.
I’ve been able to feel more connected and practice better discernment in all my relationships.

With my academic background and decades of experience as a move, dancer and somanaut, I bring a unique skillset regarding embodiment. 

Why Somatics…
for Attachment Repair and Relationship healing

Through my years of study, I have learned how
attachment is a somatic process.

This is because so much of our attachment system gets formed before we can talk, through eye contact, sound, touch, and other sensory information processed through the body. Our attachment patterns therefore get stored in our implicit memory, and are accessed and expressed through the body. 

Attachment trauma is a type of developmental trauma that happens in early childhood. Research clearly indicates that these early childhood experiences impact the health and wellbeing of our adult relationships. 

Because our attachment patterning happens in the body, before we're able to talk, it can be incredibly challenging to think or talk our way to changing and improving our relationship functioning.

When we support the body to unwind attachment wounds, it can have profound positive impact on our present-day relationships.

Engage the Potency of
Trauma-Informed* Somatic Work

This work focuses on the body's physiological responses to stress and trauma. We work in the here-and-now, exploring the ways we protect, hold, avoid, and grip within our body postures, gestures and behavior. 

The body is the central place of experience, from which the mind makes meaning. 

Together, you and I learn how your body experiences your life – how your sensations and emotions are translated into your thoughts, your beliefs and your behavior. From there we can start to map and untangle the patterns that no longer serve you. The body can be a place of profound and lasting healing, when we actively and mindfully consider it as part of your experience. 

Where there was once trauma, threat and holding, a deeper sense of safety and ease is possible.

*read more about what it means to be trauma informed here.

Decolonize your Body
and your Relationships

Insecure attachment and toxic relational dynamics have corrupt power systems at their core. Healing our relationships is decolonizing work, because we learn how to divest from toxic power dynamics that often involve manipulation, control, subjugation of our needs for others, and instead learn to create right relationship, secure attachment and interdependence.

Interdependent, securely functioning relationships happen through a collaborative, consensual, and mutually beneficial interweaving of each individual's needs and boundaries to create nourishing connection.

A deep knowing of the self, the intersections of your identity, your needs, fears, desires and boundaries is vital work to show up better in relationship. What’s more, coming back into connection with your body is a radical act of decolonization.

The Embodied Relationship Coaching Package

What’s Included:

  • Over zoom, or in person (Los Angeles only), we’ll work one-on-one to distinguish your particular attachment style and needs in relationship, and tailor a somatic resourcing plan specific for you.

  • (serious inquiries only) Before initiating the program, we’ll chat a bit about your current relational stressors, and you’ll get to hear how I envision us working together, and feel into whether you’d like to proceed.

  • After session 4, you’ll receive an attachment profile and somatic resources and tools specifically catered to you and your needs.

  • This is a members-only video library of 10 Somatic Resourcing Tools and the Polyvagal Crash Course - a 60 minute video training designed to deepen your understanding your nervous system.

In our Journey Together, you’ll Discover:


Nervous System Regulation

You’ll learn about the role of the nervous system in regulating emotions and responses to stress, and specifically how your particular nervous system works. You’ll develop awareness of your bodily sensations and learn techniques to know when your dysregulated and learn how to regulate. This regulation is key for folks with attachment wounds, as it’s the cornerstone for emotional regulation which supports stability in relationships.

Resourcing and Grounding

Together we’ll identify and develop which resources will cultivate a sense of safety and grounding in your body. This not only supports repairing attachment difficulties, but builds your resilience and capacity for navigate challenging attachment dynamics and feeling more secure in relationships.

Body Wisdom

Deepen your awareness of what the sensations in your body are telling you. Learn to recruit your body’s wisdom in discernment, boundary work, and detecting relational threat and safety. This body wisdom can help you in the moment-to-moment realities of communicating and relating to partners.

You’ll walk away with:

✦ A more grounded, embodied and secure version of yourself ✦

✦ A recovered sense of safety and curiosity for connection ✦

✦ An improved capacity to enjoy enriching and rewarding relationships ✦

✦ More discernment regarding unhealthy relationships and toxic dynamics ✦

✦ Access to more love, connection, safety and intimacy with your partner ✦

Coaching Package Options

The Immersion

Package Includes:

8x 75-minute Private Coaching Sessions

30 minute free consult

Tailored Somatic Reset Plan

Access to Embodiment Portal

(a $2970 value)


in full: $2175
(save $150)

3 monthly payments: $775

The Deep Dive

Package Includes:

12x 75-minute Private Coaching Sessions

30 minute free consult

Tailored Somatic Reset Plan

Access to Embodiment Portal

(a $4170 value)


in full: $2975
(save $225)

4 monthly payments: $800

Not sure which package is best for you? We can talk about it during our consult call….

Working with Odessa as a coach was a very grounding and insightful experience. She helped me to drop into myself and my body and learn myself in the moment as well as to reset some old limiting beliefs that arose from our work together (that I didn’t even know existed). I gained more inner security as a result of my time with Odessa along with clarity that helped me make some big shifts in my relational life and inner world. 

~Julie

This is for you if…

✦ You’re feeling stuck in an unhealthy relationship dynamic with your partner

✦ You’re recovering from a difficult breakup

✦ You’re considering leaving your current relationship, or wondering if there is more you can do to make it work

✦ You’re having a hard time feeling good and/or worthy in your relationship

✦ You’re sick of being alone or having short-lived unsatisfying relationships

FAQs

  • Absolutely! This program is designed to meet you where you’re at in your embodiment journey. We’ll check in about your familiarity with somatics during our alignment call, and I tailor your individual coaching program to you, including more psycho-education and basics of somatics for beginners, and more advanced collaborative options for those more versed in the somatic world.

  • After we complete the alignment call and decide to move forward, we’ll find a time that works for both of us - ideally, we’ll schedule a weekly consistent spot, if possible. My availability varies, but I generally schedule clients Tuesdays thru Thursdays.

  • I generally recommend scheduling the sessions in 8 or 12 consecutive weeks (depending on the package you choose) - it allows for us to incubate and really focus in on the work. However, I know that life schedules can be complex and this may be prohibitive for some, so I require that we complete all 8 sessions within 3 months, or all 12 sessions to be completed in 4 months. More time between sessions may impact how well you integrate with the work, so this limitation serves you and the work.

  • The main time commitment is the one-on-one live sessions, ideally scheduled weekly. The video resources total roughly 2-3 hours of watch time, and are all completely optional. The personalized somatic resourcing plan that I provide about halfway through will be a guide for you to establish somatic practices in your every day life, and I recommend you set aside 10 minutes a day to get into the habit of using these resourcing tools. The goal here is for it to be seamlessly integrated into your every day life while doing other things, so once they become more familiar to you, you can pull them out of your toolbox whenever you need to.

  • I consider DEI work to be an important part of our collective healing process, and I hold a liberatory/decolonizing/social-justice-oriented framework as a main pillar of one-on-one work. Our ability to thrive and not just survive is impacted by many things beyond our childhood and interpersonal relationships. Environmental, cultural and socio-economic context matters, and I include this in our work.

    To that end, I choose to work with people who align with inclusivity and diversity as values, and understand (or are curious to learn more about) how decolonization principles interweave with healing and move us towards more embodied relationships.

  • You can, although I’m certain you’ll get so much more value out of committing to a package. Repatterning our relationships and bodies takes time and deserves your invested commitment. At times, previous clients might elect to schedule a one-off check-in session (I love to get updates on how you’re doing and support your ongoing learning!), and for those I charge my standard rate of $300 per 75-minute session

Are you Ready?

Get a feel for what’s in store.

Apply for a brief Alignment Call.

This is the first step of the process and helps us explore mutual alignment before we begin a partnership of somatic coaching.

Space is limited.

Disclaimer

This webpage offers coaching services only. Coaching is in no way to be construed or substituted as psychological counseling or any other type of therapy or medical advice. Although Odessa Avianna Perez is a California licensed psychotherapist, she is not offering psychotherapy in the above offerings. All information on this webpage, and provided in subsequent coaching sessions is for informational purposes only, does not constitute medical advice, nor does it establish any kind of patient-client relationship.

While somatic work can be highly beneficial for attachment repair, it's important to note that different therapeutic approaches may be more suitable for different individuals. This coaching program may not be suitable for you if you have extensive complex PTSD, or intense developmental or relational trauma. It is recommended to consult with and/or seek formal psychotherapeutic treatment from a qualified licensed therapist. Again, this program is not psychotherapy.